The tired ones, and why boundaries are professional

I want to talk about the people who leave.

Over the years, I have watched a lot of good educators walk away from this work: colleagues I once stood beside on the floor, students I taught thirteen years ago, and people I studied with back in 2010. Most of them still loved working with children: watch them grow, support their learning. They left because they were exhausted. No one had informed them that exhaustion was a workplace issue and not a personal failing.

I know that tiredness from the inside. There was a stretch where I fell asleep anywhere I sat down, missed appointments, and caught every illness going around. I developed asthma and chronic allergies during those years. I walked into a glass door once, and I tripped over toys more often than I would like to admit, because I was moving through my days half awake. At night I took the documentation home and lay awake planning the next week in my head. I was completely drained, and I was calling it commitment.

Here is what I understand now that I did not understand then. There are two traps waiting for us, and both look like virtue.

The first is the one Anne Stonehouse pointed to, the belief that we are “nice ladies who love children”. It sounds like a compliment. It also strips the profession of its knowledge, its training and its claim to fair conditions, because love is treated as its own reward.

The other trap is the superhero, the educator who absorbs everything, sets no limits, and treats their own depletion as proof of how much they care.

Self-care is what protects you from both traps and keeps you in the work for the long run. By self-care, I mean something practical and often uncomfortable. This includes being assertive at work and knowing your rights and your award. It also involves speaking up about ratios, breaks, workload, and pay, both in your own centre and across the wider profession. Protecting your health is part of your professional practice. A drained educator cannot do this work well. Often, they cannot stay in it.

So here is what I would ask you to think about. Where in your work have you been told, in words or in silence, that caring means having no limits? What changes if you treat your own wellbeing as part of your professionalism? Consider it a necessity rather than a reward once everyone else is looked after.

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The new VEYLDF approved framework: what changed?

If you’re applying for an educator role in Victoria, there’s one document the panel expects you to know before you walk in. It’s the VEYLDF, and in government-funded kinders it isn’t optional. Here’s the part most applicants skip.

Download the new framework here ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿป

Ochre Artwork by Annette Sax (Taungurung), developed in collaboration with Dr Sue Atkinson AM (Yorta Yorta). Photography by Hunter Callaghan. ยฉ State of Victoria (Department of Education) 2026.

https://www.education.vic.gov.au/Documents/childhood/providers/edcare/Victorian-Early-Years-Learning-and-Development-Framework-VEYLDF-2026.pdf

The changes at a glance

Area2016 version2026 version
Practice Principles8 principles7 principles
Integrated teaching and learningOne of the 8 principlesA standalone element with its own section, brought to the front
Fifth principleEquity and diversityEquity, diversity and inclusion (names neurodiversity)
Professionals principlePartnerships with professionalsPartnerships between professionals
Planning cycleCollect information, Question/Analyse, Plan, Act/Do, Reflect/review (from EYLF 2010)Observe, Assess, Plan, Implement, Evaluate (from EYLF 2022)
In practice tablesNoneA Do / See / Reflect table for every principle and for transitions
First Nations knowledgeOne Ochre Artwork and one story descriptionCultural Knowledge Stories woven throughout, with a new artist, Robert Barnett
Key termsGlossary sat at the backKey terms section up front: child safety, cultural safety, families, child voice, early childhood professionals, play
Child Safe StandardsNot namedNamed, sitting alongside the National Quality Framework
NeurodiversityNot mentionedNeuro-affirming practice named as part of inclusion
Ecological ModelProminent, full Bronfenbrenner diagram (Figure 2)Referenced in text, less visually central; the Cultural Knowledge Stories carry the relational message
School links and mapsIllustrative Maps to the Victorian Curriculum F to 10Learning and Development Maps, plus a link to the Victorian Teaching and Learning Model 2.0
The five OutcomesFive outcomesSame five outcomes, names unchanged, now with “This is evident when children” indicators
SustainabilityCovered broadlySplit into three dimensions: environmental, social, economic
Overall shapeLong, with five appendicesStreamlined, ending at Transitions and Continuity of learning

There’s a framework Victorian kinders have to follow, and half the people applying mention it without ever really understanding it. Let me show you the bit that actually matters

1. planning cycle

EARLY YEARS FRAMEWORK ยท VICTORIA The Planning Cycle VEYLDF 2026 aligned with EYLF 2.0 Documentation happens throughout the cycle 1 Observe watch and listen 2 Assess make sense of it 3 Plan choose the next step 4 Implement put it into action 5 Evaluate reflect, what next? A Storykate resource storykate.com.au

The single biggest shift for your audience is the planning cycle rename. It moves from Collect, Question and Analyse, Plan, Act, Reflect to Observe, Assess, Plan, Implement, Evaluate, which now matches EYLF 2022. 1. The planning cycle has new words.

The old cycle ran Collect information, Question and Analyse, Plan, Act or Do, Reflect and review, drawn from the 2010 Educator’s Guide. The 2026 cycle runs Observe, Assess, Plan, Implement, Evaluate, drawn from the updated EYLF 2022. Same intent, refreshed language, and it now lines up with the national framework so educators are not juggling two vocabularies.

If your templates, headings or observation labels still say “collect” and “act or do”, they are due for a refresh to Observe, Assess, Plan, Implement, Evaluate.

2. Integrated teaching and learning is now its own thing

In 2016 it lived inside the eight principles. In 2026 it steps out as a standalone element with its own section near the front, which is why the principle count drops to seven. The three approaches carry through, with a small wording tidy: child-directed play and learning becomes child-directed learning, guided play and learning becomes guided learning, and adult-led learning stays as it was. The framing also shifts, with the Woven Strands Cultural Knowledge Story now illustrating how the three approaches interlace from a Victorian First Nations perspective.

For planning, this means a weekly program should make the three approaches visible and show the intentional call about when to follow, when to guide and when to lead.

3. Equity and diversity grows into equity, diversity and inclusion

The fifth principle gains inclusion in its name, and the text names neuro-affirming practice that recognises and values neurodiversity. Nothing in the old version blocked inclusive practice, though the 2026 wording makes it explicit and asks you to plan adjustments as a matter of course.

4. New Do, See, Reflect tables

Every principle now comes with an In practice table split into Do, See and Reflect. That gives you a ready scaffold for reflection, and a neat way to evidence your practice against each principle for a Quality Improvement Plan or an assessment and rating visit.

5. Cultural Knowledge Stories run right through

The 2016 book had a single Ochre Artwork by Annette Sax with a story by Dr Sue Atkinson. The 2026 version deepens this considerably, with a suite of stories tied to framework elements: the Fern for pedagogy, the Woven Strands for integrated teaching and learning, the Yam Daisy or Murnong for planning, Ochre Mountain for assessment, Scar Trees and Message Stick for the outcomes, and River Stepping Stones for transitions. Robert Barnett, of Yorta Yorta descent, joins as a collaborating artist. First Nations perspectives are embedded across the whole document rather than sitting in one place.

6. Key terms and Child Safe Standards move up front

The 2026 version opens with defined key terms: child safety, cultural safety, families, child voice, early childhood professionals and play. It also names the Child Safe Standards explicitly, sitting alongside the National Quality Framework. That reflects the current regulatory setting and connects neatly to the child safety and child protection distinction educators are asked to hold.

7. What did not change

The five Learning and Development Outcomes keep their names: strong sense of identity, connected with and contribute to their world, strong sense of wellbeing, confident and involved learners, effective communicators. The reflective, relationship-centred spirit of the framework is intact. If your resources already speak the Outcomes language, that part carries straight across.

My notes and thoughts

The 2026 framework text is released under Creative Commons Attribution 4.0, so you may quote and paraphrase it with credit to the State of Victoria (Department of Education).

Cheers, Kate / Storykate

How to Handle Rejection After a Job Interview

Have you ever felt that sharp jab after an interview? You know – you wait for the call, it finally comes, and they tell you it wasn’t the right fit, or they went with someone else. Before you decide what that says about you, give me a few minutes.

I have been there. More than once, for sure. Over the years, I started reading into psychology, including CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) and a bit of neurolinguistic programming, and slowly the way I looked at failure shifted. Interview rejection included.

Rejection does not mean you are not good enough

Most of the pain after an interview traces back to one belief we rarely say out loud: that a knock-back means we are not good enough.

Here is the trap. Your mind takes one event, a no from this centre, this university, this school, and turns it into a verdict about all of you. The actual fact is usually plain. “We went with another candidate.” That is rarely what you hear, though. You hear that it is personal, that you failed, that you didn’t show well, that you are a loser.

In psychology, these mental shortcuts are called cognitive distortions, and a few of them tend to turn up the moment a rejection lands.

There is overgeneralisation, where one “no” becomes “I always fail interviews.” When you catch yourself there, stop and ask whether that is actually true. Then list the times you didn’t fail, when you did land the job, the role, the mark, whatever you were after. This one got me badly when I missed out on a training job at TAFE. I told myself it would never happen because I wasn’t born here, and that thought walked me straight into the victim seat.

Then there is labelling, where a single outcome hardens into an identity. One ordinary interview on one ordinary day becomes “I am a failure.”

Personalisation is another. You read the decision of the director, the preschool committee as a judgment of your worth, when most of the time it comes down to budget, timing and fit. And sometimes, honestly, there is already an internal candidate. The role still gets advertised and a few people still get interviewed so it all looks fair, but the choice was made before you walked in.

Last one, emotional reasoning. “I feel like a failure, therefore I am one.” Sound familiar?

This is where you separate the event from the story you wrap around it. One of my favourite Buddhist teachers, Pema Chรถdrรถn, talks about feeling what you feel and then dropping the storyline. Let yourself sit with what actually happened, the event itself, without building a whole narrative about what it says about you.

“Feel the feelings and drop the story.”

Why rejection hurts almost physically

It still hurts to be rejected. I know that very well. And there is a good reason it can feel almost physical.

Eisenberger and Lieberman used brain imaging to study social exclusion. They found that some of the same regions tied to physical pain switch on when we are left out. That pain is a real signal, wired into us from a time when we lived in tribes and being pushed out of the group could mean death. To your social brain, a rejection still reads as a threat.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1364661304001433

Once you have named the hurt, the question is what to do with it. Across my own interview journey I keep coming back to three ideas.

Three things that helped me

The first is self-compassion, from the work of Kristin Neff. Her research shows that treating yourself with kindness helps you recover far more quickly than turning on yourself. So instead of propping up your ego (“I’m better than that job anyway, they clearly had no idea”), try this. Picture a friend who walked out of that exact interview with that exact rejection. Would you call them names? Of course not. You would give them a hug, shout them a coffee, remind them what they are good at, and tell them to keep going. Say those things to yourself.

The second is planned happenstance, from John Krumboltz, whose career counselling work I am studying right now. His idea is that careers are shaped mostly by events we never planned for. What helps is staying open, curious, persistent and flexible while you chase the work you want. That mindset lets a rejection become a redirection. When I missed the trainer job the first time, I started wondering whether I could move into assessing instead, working with learners on placement rather than running a classroom. That turned out to be easier to get into.

The third comes from Mark Savickas and his career narrative approach. A setback can become a chapter you give meaning to, instead of the final word. You are the author here. This rejection makes one small event in a long story, and it does not decide your ending.

A final word

So I wish you all the best with your next interview. Be kind to yourself and keep an open mind. You are still the one writing this story.

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Cheers,Kate from Storykate

Teaching tips: Bilingual Children in your care

Over the years, I have come across a fair share of bilingual or even bilingual children in my care. I teach in Australia and this country is proud to have a diverse population. Here are few things that I observed and learned while working with multicultural families.

โ€œLearn a new language and you gain a new soul.โ€ (Czech proverb)

Bilingualism means speaking more than one language. To be precise, two languages. Children become bilingual for different reasons. Sometimes it happens by circumstance (for example, when parents move to another country). Sometimes it is practical (study, career, opportunities). Sometimes it is emotional (to communicate with family), and sometimes simply out of love for a language.

No matter why you choose to raise a bilingual child or support them in your educational setting, speaking more than one language will benefit them.


Two languages are better than one

Research continues to show the advantages of bilingualism. It is much more than just knowing two languages.

First, bilingual children are more open to other people and cultures. They tend to have a broader worldview compared to monolingual children.

Second, bilingual children develop strong metalinguistic awareness. They notice grammar patterns more easily and understand how language works. For many objects, they know two words. Switching between languages helps them see connections between sounds and letters, which often supports strong writing skills.

Third, bilingual children can switch their attention more easily. This helps them focus better and manage multiple tasks.

Fourth, bilingual children often show stronger divergent thinking. They can think of many different ways to use objects and solve problems creatively. As adults, bilingual people tend to have mental flexibility, and their brains are more resilient with age. History also shows that many well-known creative thinkers were bilingual.


โ€œCoca-Cola, please!โ€

I wanted my son to grow up bilingual from birth. We watched Muzzy in Gondoland, played educational games, and read books in English. I sang songs in English, Italian, and French, always naming the language so he could learn to recognise them.

However, his response to my English attempts at age four wasโ€ฆ memorable.

I remember him stamping his feet and asking me to stop speaking English. But everything changed on a Qantas flight. At five years old, he realised the flight attendants did not understand Russianโ€”and he really wanted juice and Coca-Cola.

He tried saying โ€œI want colaโ€ in Russian. The flight attendant smiled politely but did not understand. By the end of the long flight, he had learned to say clearly:
โ€œCoca-Cola, please!โ€

His second โ€œsurvival phraseโ€ was โ€œWhere is the toilet?โ€, which he learned at school.

By age ten, he was speaking English fluentlyโ€”better than I could imagine after many years of learning it myself.


How children learn a second language

My sonโ€™s journey follows a pattern described by Patton Tabors. Children typically go through four stages when learning a second language:

  1. Using their home language and noticing it does not work
  2. Silent period โ€“ listening, observing, absorbing language
  3. Formulaic phrases โ€“ โ€œMe tooโ€, โ€œWhatโ€™s your name?โ€, โ€œI wantโ€ฆโ€
  4. Productive stage โ€“ speaking freely and confidently

Every child moves through these stages at their own pace.


When to start

In early childhood, the brain forms connections quickly, so learning a second language is more effective.

There are different types of bilingualism:

  • Infant bilingualism โ€“ exposed to two languages from birth
  • Childhood bilingualism โ€“ ages 5 to 12
  • Adolescent bilingualism โ€“ ages 12 to 17

Learning two languages at once can be both easier and more challenging. Children absorb language naturally, but they still need support and meaningful interaction.

The ideal time is before 5โ€“7 years, when children already have a foundation in language, and their memory, attention, and fine motor skills are developing. At this age, children are more likely to speak both languages fluently and without an accent.


How much is enough?

Every family is different, so it is hard to define exact hours. Some research suggests around 25 hours per week of meaningful language exposure.

Language includes:

  • listening
  • speaking
  • reading
  • writing

All of these need attention.

Language is not something you โ€œfinishโ€. It is ongoingโ€”more like climbing or maintaining something over time. As parents and educators, our role is to:

  • choose a strategy
  • stay consistent
  • create a rich language environment

Strategies for raising bilingual children

Barbara Zurer Pearson describes three main approaches:

1. One parent โ€“ one language

Each parent consistently speaks their own language with the child.

2. Time and place

Different languages are used in different situations (for example, at school vs at home).

3. Home language

The family speaks one language at home, while the community uses another.

This is common in countries like Australia. For example, a family may speak Russian or French at home, while the child uses English at childcare or school.

The key is to maintain the home language, because the environment will naturally support English.


10 steps towards bilingualism

  1. Be consistent with your chosen approach
  2. Be patient and persistent
  3. Make learning enjoyable (books, films, games)
  4. Use a variety of resources (songs, stories, technology)
  5. Create opportunities for real communication
  6. Do not focus on mistakesโ€”focus on fluency and confidence
  7. Consider bilingual programs or language groups
  8. Connect language to culture
  9. Talk often and meaningfully with your child
  10. Give children time and space to respond and participate

What is your experience teaching or raising bilingual children? ‘Let’s discuss!